“Walk in wisdom toward those who are outside, redeeming the time. Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how you ought to answer each one.” Colossians 4:5-6
How should we, as Christians, conduct ourselves in our dealings with those outside Christ’s church? The Apostle Paul answers in the closing words of his instruction to the believers at the church in Colosse: “Walk in wisdom toward those who are outside, redeeming the time. Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how you ought to answer each one.”
We, as believers, ought to live our lives wisely in regard to those outside Christ’s church, redeeming the time and making use of every opportunity God gives to make known to them the truth revealed to us by God in His Word.
We may not realize it, but how we live and conduct our business here in this world can make someone either want to know more about our faith or want nothing to do with it. Sometimes, an uncharitable word is all it takes to close the door to further witness.
Thus, how important it is to be charitable and honest in all our dealings with those not only inside but also outside the church!
We ought to buy back the time commonly given to evil or frivolity and make use of every moment God gives us to share the good news of God’s mercy and forgiveness in Christ Jesus. And our speech should “always be with grace,” reflecting the grace of God toward us in Christ Jesus. When we remember how much the Lord has forgiven each of us and to what lengths He went to bring about our salvation — even going to the cross and suffering and dying for our sins — should it be any trouble for us to speak kindly, even to our enemies and to those who have mistreated us?
Being “seasoned with salt” means our conversations with those outside the church should be both winsome and truthful. The Christian must wisely and consistently share the truth at every opportunity, rightly applying the warnings of God’s law and the comforts of the Gospel of forgiveness and life in Christ Jesus. We cannot and should not try to coerce people into the kingdom of God. Rather, we share the truth with them and let the Holy Spirit convince their hearts.
The way in which we converse with those outside Christ’s church may vary with each person, making it so important that our speech “always be with grace, seasoned with salt,” so that we, rightly, give an answer to every person. For this, we most certainly need the wisdom and direction of God’s Spirit in our daily lives and conversations.
But what if we have been less than honest and charitable in our dealings with those outside the church? What if, instead of being motivated by God’s grace toward us, we dealt with someone from the selfishness and wickedness of our old, sinful nature? What can we do?
There is no better way than to honestly admit our sins and misdeeds to the Lord Jesus and to those whom we have offended — even if they are outside of Christ’s church. We know from the Bible that God is gracious and forgives sins for the sake of Christ’s blood, shed on the cross, when we repent and look to Him in faith. And, what better witness to our faith in God’s mercy and grace than to admit our own sins and failures and look to Him for pardon and forgiveness!
O Holy Spirit, grant me wisdom in my dealings with those who do not yet know and trust in Christ Jesus, that my speech may reflect Your grace and that I might wisely use the time and opportunities given me to share the good news of God’s mercy toward sinners for Jesus’ sake. In Christ’s name, I pray. Amen.
[Scripture taken from the New King James Version®. Copyright © 1982 by Thomas Nelson. Used by permission. All rights reserved.]